Magical Stuff

Well, sometimes we wonder how we ever got into such a painful relationship. Many of us think we would never do such a foolish thing again. But the reality is not that simple.

BP's are magical people. They have powers that ordinary people will never have. And they are beautiful, intelligent, sensitive, insightful people. They have the power to short-circuit our brains and reach right for our hearts. These people move us in ways we always dreamed of and always hoped for. They fill us with feelings more powerful than we could ever have imagined.

If you took all the hurt in my life from everyone else, added it up, and multiplied by a million, it still be less than the hurt I have suffered in my relationship with my wife (and she's not even BP! Not even close!) Yet, when despair for my relationship overcame me, my heart reached out - not to some nice healthy, divorcee my own age, who could love and cherish me -  but to a sad, hurting little girl just like my wife - complete with all the same problems.

No, I would never choose to be in a relationship like this again. But I just might do it anyway. So don't be too hard on yourself. Magic is powerful stuff.  

And if you want to work on staying out of this kind of relationship, take a look at some of the thoughts under "Dealing with love". Here you'll start to understand what it is that attracts you to the same kinds of people, over and over again.

© 2004-6 Richard, 21CP and Dalkeith Press